Whenever I meet with a new client, I like to ask what they have researched and where they found the information.
My purely unscientific results follow:
1. Internet web searches
2. Social media searches
3. Friends, family and co-workers
4. Self help books
5. Clergy and mental health providers
Is there a difference between how men seek information as opposed to how women seek information?
Again, purely unscientific, my answer is “you betcha!”
Internet Searches:
Men tend to engage in web searches such as “Howard County Men’s Rights Divorce.” Well, as long as they are looking for a Howard County divorce attorney, of course.
Women use searches such as “Howard County Divorce Attorney Alimony,” or something similar to that.
The point is that searches are highly targeted geographically, as well as topically.
Social Media Searches:
This proves to be less gender specific. People going through a divorce tend to use private messaging to Facebook friends or highly selective Tweets to gain information. You never want to post the following on your Facebook wall, especially if your spouse can see your wall:
“I am in search of an aggressive Howard County divorce attorney to protect my rights from my lying, cheating spouse. And you know who you are, so don’t bother responding!”
True or false? This is an actual post from a jilted spouse.
Friends, Family and Co-Workers
Traditionally, this has always been the primary way people seek an attorney, and for the most part, it tends to be the most successful way.
Self Help Books
Don’t laugh. While it might not give you the name of an attorney, you can certainly learn the good, bad and ugly about the process of divorce.
Clergy and Mental Health Providers
Many times, these folks can provide great insight in directing you to a divorce attorney to match your needs.
No matter how you seek information about divorce, please understand that divorce is an extremely complex area of law. Seek an initial consult with an experienced divorce attorney, preferably one with twenty years of experience or more.
Even if you do not end up retaining one of us, the education about the divorce process and strategy will be invaluable to you.
